My man has to 'oil up' before sex

November 17, 2018

Dear Pastor,
I am 21 years old and I have a concern. I want to get your opinion. I recently came to live with a man and every time we are about to have sex, he uses Vaseline on his penis or on the condom or even in my vagina.

The first time I saw him doing it, I asked him why and he told me that it was to get it into my vagina easily. Don’t care how I am wet, this man uses it. Even my hair oil he uses sometimes.

Sometimes when I have my back turned to him and I am half asleep, he does it because the bed is all messed up with greasy stuff.

I told him that he should change the type of condom that he is using, but he hasn’t changed it.

Dear G.W.,
It is the practice of some men to use oil on their penis before entering their women. But, by doing so, they put the women at risk of getting an infection.

Any type of lubricant should be water based, so do not allow your man to use oil or Vaseline in your vagina or on his penis before having sex with you. 

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