My kids want me to divorce their abusive dad

February 19, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for 20 years, but my husband and I have been together for 30 years. My husband and I have three children together. He is now 65 years old, and I am 60. He is very abusive. My children told me a long time ago to divorce him, but I couldn't bring myself to do it. I am not for divorce, and my church is against divorce.

Recently, we had a fuss and he pushed me down, I hurting my back. My son threatened his father when he heard, and I had to quiet him down. This man stays home every day and eats and drinks, while I go to work. Now he is calling me an old woman and telling me that he can get young women, so if I want to go, I can go. He gets social security, so he feels that would keep him until he dies. I can't tell the children everything that he has done to me, because I don't want them to hate him.

Sometimes I think he is crazy. Do you have anything against divorce? We are living in the house and not talking to each other.


Dear P.A.,

Some men talk a lot of foolishness about getting young girls. All young girls want from them is their money. However, you and your husband should agree to see a family counsellor. After being married for 20 years, both of you should have been happy until you die. So, go to a counsellor and see whether he/she can assist you in resolving your differences.

Divorce should only be considered as a last resort.


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