I want a child before I’m too old

Dear Pastor,

It is coming down to the end of the year and I have not accomplished what I set out to do in January. I am 26. I have a man and we are planning to have a child together because we are living together. My birthday was in March and when I told him that we should not use the condom anymore, he told me that it was too risky. I asked him when we were going to start and he said after COVID-19.

Now I am going to be a year older and still childless. I don't know if this man can't get me pregnant or what, but I know I have taken every advice from the doctor and nothing is happening. I feed my man well. I make 'strong back', and all he does is laugh and enjoy his drinks. But this is not a joking matter. I really need a child.

Pastor, I don't know what to do. A big woman told me I should try another man, but I will never do that. I am too afraid. So please give your advice.

U.S.

Dear U.S.,

Stay with your man. Don't listen to what other people may say. Some women have taken years before getting pregnant. Perhaps both of you should get married and settle down and a child may come after. I have known that to happen to many couples. A Rastafarian man came to see me. He was with this woman for years and couldn't impregnate her but he decided to marry her anyway. On the day of his wedding, while he was saying his vows, he broke down in tears. He wept and wept and wept and his bride was as calm as ever. I did the wedding and prayed that God would pour his blessing on them. A couple of months after I got some good news. That man had got his wife pregnant. I greatly rejoiced with them.

You can never know what the Good Lord will do and don't put trust only in yourself. Now anyone who wants to curse me because of what I said can do so.

Pastor